Ep 20 – Ménage à Moi featuring Dr. Chris Donaghue of Loveline (Part 1)

While at the NY Sex Expo, No Free Drinks was inspired to bring you a two part series about masturbation. In the first part of the episode we interview Dr. Chris Donaghue, TENGA brand ambassador, to dig deep into cultural attitudes around masturbation. Dr. Chris is nationally recognized as a sex and relationship expert, and shares his expertise as the cohost of CBS’ LoveLine Podcast with Amber Rose. His goal is to elevate the conversation around masturbation and help foster cultural acceptance. Join us as we challenge perceptions about masturbation, encourage our listeners to focus on the health benefits of masturbation, and masturbate more!

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Lina D kicks off the episode by telling our listeners about the great time the team had at the NY Sex Expo September 23- 24. They all shared their highlights of the weekend and Lina D talks about the most exciting outcome- that we were able to make new friends and interview Dr. Chris Donaghue.  He is a nationally recognized sex therapist who is has teamed up with TENGA to change the conversation about masturbation. Learn more about Sex Expo here.  

Lina D talks a bit more about why No Free Drinks is excited to interview Dr. Chris and to have met the TENGA team.  She shares her point of view on why she thinks masturbation is important and Westley and Brock also give their points of view.

More about TENGA: they are a Japanese-based company focused on the betterment of sexual health and wellness, broadening the cultural acceptance of masturbation and making sexuality something everyone can enjoy. TENGA products are designed to make masturbation a more enjoyable and beneficial experience and don’t necessarily mimic the human anatomy. They believe this differentiates them and allows them to bring conversations about masturbation to the mainstream. TENGA aims to elevate the discussion around masturbation from secretive to celebratory, and enables users to bring the best tools to the party.

Brock walks us through TENGA’s United State(s) of Masturbation Survey Learn more about the survey here: http://www.unitedstatesofmasturbation.com/

Our relationship with TENGA allowed us to give you a special look into the survey results and really understand the breakout of results from an ethnicity perspective.  Here are a few of the highlights we mention in the episode:

  1. 76% of Latinos agree that masturbation is good for health (vs 65% Whites, 59% Blacks)
  2. Among those who have masturbated, Blacks (22%) are more likely to masturbate in the morning (vs. 16% Latinos, 15% Whites).
  3. Among those in a committed relationship, Latinos are the most open to talking about masturbation with their significant others (68% of Latinos vs. 56% Whites, 54% Blacks).
  4. 73% of Latinos have received sex education in school (vs. 62% Whites, 60% Blacks).
  5. Latinos in the US are a far younger audience (61% of Latinos in our sample were millennials vs. only 24% of whites and 39% of blacks who were millennials), so these points are likely to be influenced by generational differences.

 

Westley introduces Dr. Chris Donaghue. He is a Doctor of Clinical Sexology and Human Sexuality, Certified Sex Therapist, Licensed Clinical Therapist and Doctoral trained in Clinical Psychology, and continues to run his private practice out of Los Angeles. He is one out of only four hundred individuals who completed the extra training to receive his CST Credentials.

Dr. Chris specializes in individual and couples sex and marital therapy, as well as sexual compulsivity, sexual anorexia, sexual dysfunctions and non-traditional sexuality, identities and relationships. His expertise has been shared with hundreds during his lectures at University of Southern California (USC), University of California Los Angeles (UCLA), Antioch University and University of California Riverside (UCR).

He continues to lecture at leading conferences, including Catalyst Con, ASSECT Conference and for the Hazeldan Betty Ford Foundation. Dr. Chris is nationally recognized as a sex and relationship expert, and shares his expertise as the cohost of CBS’ LoveLine Podcast. Additionally, he is the featured expert on VH1’s new “The Amber Rose Show,” and regularly appears on segments including CBS’ The Doctors, WE’s Sex Box, Logo TV’s Bad Sex. He has been featured in Newsweek, National Geographic, on CNN, OWN, and Dr. Drew’s “Lifechangers,” and many more.

Dr. Chris aims to elevate the conversation around masturbation and help foster cultural acceptance. With the aid from TENGA’s 2017 United State(s) of Masturbation, a recent survey focused on masturbation behaviors and perceptions, he aims to elevate the conversation around masturbation, help foster cultural acceptance and educate on the sexual health and wellness benefits of healthy masturbation.

 

Questions for Dr. Chris:

  1. From the United States of Masturbation survey we learned that a majority of people believe that openly talking about masturbation would be beneficial to society, however of those people only 28% have even had a conversation about masturbating with a friend.  In your experience, what are some of the psychological and cultural factors that contribute to the embarrassment factor tied to talking about masturbation?
  2. What advice do you have for couples that are unbalanced when it comes to masturbation? For example, I’ve heard stories where women have caught their boyfriends masturbating and they immediately accuse them for cheating on them.
  3. The survey highlighted a lot of health related benefits to masturbating which is a starting point for breaking down the stigmas that our society has built around masturbation.  I wanted to take that a step further and discuss the benefits that masturbation can have on sexual performance and enjoyment. Can you expand upon those benefits for men and women? (I.e.  Men masturbating before sex) And can you touch on where these benefits are more psychological or scientific in nature?
  4. We all lead busy lives. What are some of your tips for people that are constantly on the go and say they don’t have the time to masturbate?
  5. Let’s talk about the gender gap and masturbation. I found it interesting that the survey found that 41% of women own a sex toy while only 24% of men own a sex toy.  But when I looked at the percentage of women that masturbate vs. men I saw that there is a gap- one data point showed that 93% of men masturbate vs. 77% of women. What are your thoughts on what drives the gap in the genders in sex toy ownership and in masturbation?
  6. Wrap up question: I’d like to close out with you telling us more about what you love about TENGA and why our listeners should be excited about what they offer?